What if being fully yourself still doesn’t feel like enough? In this episode, we have an honest conversation about insecurity, belonging, and the fear of being fully known. Then we get practical about the boundaries we’ve created with the opposite sex to protect our marriage, build safety, and keep intimacy where it belongs.
Is porn cheating when you’re dating? Maybe the bigger question isn’t whether it technically crosses a line, but what pornography is forming in us. In this episode, we unpack sexual integrity, exclusivity, fantasy, and what it really means to prepare your heart, mind, and body for covenant.
What if your struggle with pornography isn’t only about sexual desire? What if underneath the behavior is a heart longing to feel safe, wanted, reassured, comforted, or loved? In our conversation with Shawn Bonneteau, we explore the “hungry heart,” what our behaviors can reveal about our deeper needs, and why lasting freedom is about more than simply stopping porn—it’s about healing what’s underneath and learning to lead your heart well.
What if the places connected to your deepest regret didn’t have to haunt you forever? On our 13th wedding anniversary, we went back to some of the places tied to Clint’s addiction and betrayal—not to relive the past, but to pray, reclaim what had been lost, and create a new memory together. What happened reminded us that redemption doesn’t erase the past—it changes what the past gets to mean.
What if pornography isn’t really about sex—but about the deeper longing underneath it? In this episode, we unpack a powerful scene from *The Odyssey*, the false promises pornography makes, the sexual narratives that shaped us, and how healing in Jesus can rewrite our story and change what we pass on to the next generation.
Who you surround yourself with in recovery matters. In this episode, we explore how the right community can help you process pain, bring hidden struggles into the light, grow in hope, and move toward restoration. Whether you’re wondering if you’ve outgrown your current recovery group or you and your spouse are ready to begin healing alongside other couples, this conversation is an invitation to consider who is influencing your recovery—and where God may be leading you next.
In this episode with Drew Boa, founder of Husband Material and author of Outgrow Porn, we explore a deeper approach to pornography recovery. Learn how childhood experiences, unprocessed emotions, attachment needs, and sexual triggers can shape pornography use—and how healing, practical tools, safe community, and Jesus can help men outgrow porn and experience lasting freedom.
Is an accidental chasm being created between spouses within the Christian recovery community? How do you know when you and your spouse are ready for couples work? And what do you do when one spouse is ready to heal together, but the other is not?
Learning to identify what truly fills us up can help us stay healthier, more connected, and more grounded in who God created us to be. In this post, we share how to recognize when you’re moving into the yellow circle, communicate your needs with greater honesty, and support one another with curiosity, grace, and teamwork.
What does it mean to be a biblically sexual man? Can masculine men also be deeply romantic? And how can we stop lusting and learn to embrace true beauty in other people? For many Christians, sexuality has primarily been taught through the lens of behavior.
Do not lust.
Do not look at pornography.
Do not cross boundaries.
Those boundaries matter. Purity and sexual integrity matter. But what happens when our entire understanding of sexual wholeness becomes reduced to whether we are “doing good” or “doing bad”?
